Mutual Desire and Intimacy

If adults learned to become comfortable freely expressing non-sexual physical physical intimacy as a part of the mate-selection process by rolling around like ferrets as learning The Intimate Dance requires, or experimenting with what they can do with their bodies as with acro-yoga, or coordinating their movements as with dancing, they could significantly increase the odds of selecting an optimally compatible lover. Such activities require good communication skills, too.

Practicing authentic relating, compassionate communication, circling and spiraling add to emotional intimacy skills. All of this is a pre-requisite to orgasmic success and intensification. When people realize that learning and practicing these things to perfection is a lot more important than having multiple lovers, cherishing and keeping the lover you've got will be more important than finding someone new to sex you up and humanity will begin to embrace the possibility of enhanced orgasmic expansion.

Increasing frustration tolerance in such a manner and eliminating any sense of sexual entitlement is a very important aspect of this process, which also leads normalizing the desire for living in a state of Sexual Enlightenment. As I write this it is still dangerous for women to express sexual enthusiasm because so many men get confused by it and think women are obligated to go all the way and deserve to be raped, divorced, abused, shunned, or abandoned if they aren't ready for that yet. One of the reasons women are required by law to be modest and hide their bodies in some countries is to protect them. But the respression causes men to view women as possessions.

Meanwhile date rape often goes unreported in countries where women are allowed more freedom to enjoy themselves as sexual beings because society tends to believe that certain types of dress and behavior are synonymous with an invitation to have sex. It is also very common for people in relationships to dutifully have accommodating sex because doing so is easier than enduring a begrudged lover who feels entitled to it. But without mutually passionate desire sexual relationships won't last. Even couples who stay together for the children, or simply because they don't believe in divorce, will evolve into platonic relationship or open marriages if they can't find a way to make mutiual desire sustainable.

This is why I believe that practicing intimate communication skills and developing non-sexual physical intimacy skills is so important and I offer programs to make all this possible.

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